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Why isn't New Orleans Mother's Day parade shooting a 'national tragedy'?
“So I shouldn’t be surprised that the Mother’s Day Parade shooting has largely been forgotten. On Sunday, shots were fired into a crowd during a parade in the New Orleans 7th ward. Police said they saw three suspects running from the scene.
This is the largest mass shooting in the United States where the shooters were still at large after the crime was committed. Think about that for a minute. From Columbine to Virginia Tech to Fort Hill to Aurora, all the shooters were either killed or apprehended on site. But the person or people responsible for shooting 19 Americans are still free.”
One of the people who got shot was an antiviolence blogger. Somehow we aren’t seeing massive solidarity for New Orleans or the entire city going on police lockdown to find the perpetrators. Two reasons: 1) This mostly affected Black people, and we all know how much the media and the police give any fucks about Black people in New Orleans; 2) This was a gun crime, so we can’t criticize it because GUNS ARE FREEDOM!
Wait what…? I hadn’t even heard about this! The fuck.
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And I wonder if all the moms who knock other moms for circumcising their sons had sex with uncircumcised men to have their babies
If not, I wonder if they’ve shamed their men’s mothers too. Or if they just stick to shaming random women on the Internet like cowards
My fiance and I have both shamed his parents for circumcising him. He is angry with them for it just as much as I am.
My husband hates that he was circumcised as an infant without his consent.
My fetishes include men giving me large sums of money and then never, ever talking to me again
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i just died jhfsasbhge
we went upstate and my dog was being a butt and trying to swipe at fish in the lake and she fell in and when we dried her off she was still shivering so i put a sweater on her
oh my god
my life sucks and I may be pregnant. I’ll be testing in 2 weeks just to give myself time to prepare. oh and I’ll be 21 in 5 days. :-/
Dixie had her first bottle last night and this mama cried. I mean, I pumped 2 oz, so it’s not like she doesn’t need me, but it still felt that way. :(
Helping Kids with Frustration and Rage - Mothering Community
Mothering article, Helping Kids with Frustration and Rage Just as Im about the pour a splash of vanilla into the shake Im making for my son, I hear two
I needed to read this today. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the child in the article has the same name as my sensitive son. These are all things that I know and have tried to implement, but I’ve been getting lax with this and this just gave me the kick in the butt that I needed.
“From my work with clients and reading parenting books in Everest’s early years, I know that the dominant parenting message supports of a punitive model of discipline. Culturally we support tools like “time outs” and “logical consequences” as a way to teach “good” and “bad” behavior. While I do believe that it’s possible to apply these techniques in a way that doesn’t negatively affect a child, more often than not the message that is communicated is, “Big feeling are bad. If you’re going to scream, go to your room. If you hit Charlie, you need a time out.” These techniques may work in the short run, and certainly achieve faster results than what I’ve described above, but they typically leave unseen scars and transmit unhealthy messages about big feelings…
“From my work with clients, it’s clear that the single most common cause of anxiety is learning early in life that big feelings are unmanageable and that one’s self-worth is dependent on “good” behavior. Obviously, from a parents’ perspective, good behavior is defined as quiet, calm, and reasonable. Thus is born the “good boy” or “good girl” syndrome where a child’s true nature is stuffed away deep inside because he or she learns that grown ups are uncomfortable with big feelings and that if she wants their approval, she has to be good in order to get it. And, of course, parents are uncomfortable with big feelings when they haven’t done the work necessary to heal from the unhealthy messages absorbed from their childhood about their own feelings.”
ugh, so good! thank you for sharing
i also really like this:
1. There are certainly times when my exhaustion collides with his frustration and I lose my patience. At these times, I make sure of two things: 1. That I apologize for snapping at him and 2. That I don’t make it his responsibility that I snapped at him. In other words, it’s easy to say, “I’m sorry I snapped at you but if you weren’t so loud or whiny, I wouldn’t lose my patience,” but my impatience is 100% my responsibility and nobody can “make” me lose it. Parenting isn’t about responding “perfectly” every time (impossible), but it is about role-modeling responsible behavior and being honest about our humanity. So if I can’t do what I described in the blog post, I can model for him what accountability looks like, which is equally as important. A friend once shared with me something her therapist said to her which has always stuck with me: “Relationships aren’t about being perfect. You’re going to lose it with your partner or with your kids. What matters is the repair.”
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Mommy as of Jan 31, 2013. :D
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